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From The Outside Looking In: Michael, The Club Manager

I was a chef for seventeen years before I started managing a gentleman’s club, leading a team of twenty-two chefs over five kitchens. I loved working in hospitality, but eventually I decided to throw it all away. I landed a job as an operations manager at a gentleman’s club, organising bar stock and preparing the venue for business. Over time I attempted to progress some ideas, but met with the same resistance by upper management that had ultimately led me to walk away from my career as a chef. The people in charge maintained a lot of old-school mindsets, and had a set way of doing things. There was no room to move under their management. So, I entered into a new gentleman’s club business that was all about new ideas and they also shared the same values of making a hospitality venue successful.

I started as the venue manager and was able to be on the frontline and work closely with the dancers and customers, which let me set out to achieve the goals I had once envisaged at the previous club.
Eventually I moved up in the business and was able to train other managers in the same ideas and goals, which was very rewarding. Managing a strip club is much like managing a regular nightclub, and completely different at the same time. On one hand it is just another sector of the hospitality industry. You have the same problems as any other venue. On the other, in a strip club setting you have more time to work through them. Where my previous employers fell short was that they were not hospitality people. They didn’t understand the industry in a way that would assist the business. It takes a very special kind of person to be able to manage a venue like that.
In a regular nightclub problems tend to be black and white, but in a strip club they are much more complex. The people are different. You are not just managing staff; you are managing young women in an environment where emotions are high.
A bad manager will direct, but a good manager will lead by example. A great manager is approachable on all levels, to the dancers and the customers. They must be willing to listen. Part of the role is about guiding the girls, teaching them and helping them to train their mindsets. It is useful to identify what knowledge you have in your management role.
I can’t tell a dancer how to perform on a pole, but I can coach her in sales, goal-setting and budgeting. Dancing is a very personal and emotional experience, so because I understand the dancers, they can feel comfortable coming to me if they have a problem outside that will affect them at work.
A goal, a budget and a drive to achieve are the three key ingredients to succeed in this workplace. A great dancer remains focused on her goals and on earning the money she wants. If the dancer maintains a good attitude and is able to listen, she will make good money. I encourage them to keep their core reason for dancing at the forefront of their minds, as it is what will keep them on track and see them through the hard times. I ask them to think about why they want to work as a dancer, and what they want to get out of it. If they don’t know what they want, then dancing may prove to be too big a challenge for them. Having the looks is only one part of the job; you also need the confidence to back it up. Obviously you also need to feel comfortable being naked and having people touch you, otherwise it is probably not the job for you.
At our club we do have expectations for appearances for the dancers, which does include a dress code of sorts. The girls are asked to wear classy lingerie outfits that are matching, and a specific style of shoe. We require a minimum number of shifts to be worked per week, but we are flexible on our terms. It is a system based on understanding and cooperation— if the girls work with us, we will work with them.
Some people may consider fees and fines to be an unfair requirement of the job, considering that most people don’t ‘pay’ to go to work each day. And many clubs do abuse the system and use fees and fines as an extra source of revenue to exploit the dancers. We charge a reasonable house fee with a basic structure. A dancer is a contractor, and we supply the venue for her to work in, along with the marketing and customers. We will not fine a dancer black and blue, for example if she was wearing the wrong colour nail polish.

We have three reasons why we might fine our dancers:

  1. If they are late for a shift,
  2. If they do not submit their roster on time, or
  3. If they don’t show up for work.

We focus our penalties on misconduct. If a girl is drunk and arguing or wasting time and we have to send her home, she will be fined. There is no point in her being at work in that state, and because she has wasted her own time and ours, the club is down a dancer for the night. If you were working as an employee, you would receive a number of warnings before being dismissed. I am not interested in taking money from dancers, but we do have a business to operate, and we have to make sure each night runs smoothly.

What we did when we started our own clubs was work with the fundamental ideals of running a gentleman’s club, which was providing a high quality of service, value for money, and loyalty, both with the customers and the dancers. Word spreads fast about clubs through the dancing community, and understandably a dancer will not hesitate to go where she has the best potential to earn money and where she will be treated fairly. A lot of places will see the dancer as just another number, and when she quits, another will take her place. The truth is that without the girls the strip club is just a club. The dancers are the core of our business, and if we look after them, they will look after us.

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From The Outside Looking In: Paul, The Customer

I was twenty-one years old celebrating a friend’s eighteenth birthday in Brisbane when I visited my first gentlemen’s club. I kept coming back because it was just like hanging out at a pub with mates, but with a much nicer view. My regular venue introduced poker nights, but I was going in for weekly drinks after work well before that started.

To quote the TV show ‘Cheers’, a good gentleman’s club experience is where everybody knows your name. Where the dancers are not too pushy, and in turn are not pressured by management to hustle.

Part of the relationship that appeals to a customer, especially a regular one, is the individuality of a particular dancer. Sometimes they just need to spend that little bit of extra time sitting and talking, and when a hostess or manager pounces on the dancer and tries to speed up the booking process, it could potentially undermine the dancer’s efforts.

Managers should coach the girls, but not shoo them on from a customer because he hasn’t bought a dance within three minutes. Not every guy will book in that short amount of time.

For me to book a private dance, there obviously has to be some kind of physical attraction between the dancer and me. It’s nice when a girl has put some thought into her presentation, but being a Barbie Doll isn’t what it’s all about for me either. I need to have a connection with her. I’ve booked big girls, skinny girls, redheads, blondes and brunettes. I don’t have a particular ‘type’, but the one thing they have all done is taken their time and shared with me a bit of their personality.

I like talking to the dancers, but if one were to approach me and say, “Hi my name is such and such, do you want to go for a dance?” that would help me make up my mind pretty much straight away not to book her. That might work in some places and with some people, but I like it when the girl has some rapport. I want to be able to relax and spend my money at my leisure.

Just as it would be for a dancer coming from a customer, body odour and bad breath have got to be the worst turn-offs when interacting with a dancer. Excessive bad language is another one. We all swear but every second word is certainly not attractive.

Also, if a dancer speaks badly about other girls in order to make herself look more appealing, it only reflects badly on her. I might be fond of the girl she is talking about, and she would lose my business as a result of bad mouthing.

It’s perfectly okay to be having a bad day, but I don’t want to feel obliged to spend money on a dancer out of guilt. It’s not very appealing to book her when she is moping around, and it’s especially de-motivating when the dancer complains about how poorly she has been earning.

Some dancers don’t talk to couples that come into the club, but I strongly encourage it, even so much going the extra mile to focus on the female first. Try to make her night as much fun as her partner’s. If you get a positive result, then work on the guy.

Couples go into clubs to explore something new and exciting together, and dancers can earn double the money if they secure a booking with two people. Coming from a personal standpoint, my visiting clubs has had only a positive effect on my relationship with my wife, who has become quite the regular customer herself!

From watching the dancers in their element, I have had the opportunity to observe and learn a lot about how the girls work. They work the room from the stage, and pick up on who’s watching them. They make eye contact and go to those people when they come off stage.

Girls, if you sit in the corner and expect a customer to come to you, you might be waiting awhile. Even if you’ve done the rounds and no-one’s biting, go sit with someone who’s previously acknowledged you, or who you think might be interesting and have a chat.

Obviously start with the ones that tipped you, but at least introduce yourself to the others and mention that you’ll come back and have a chat later. People love talking about themselves and if they enjoy your company, you’ll probably at least get your next drink bought for you, a tip or maybe even that dance they said no to earlier. Most customers will be willing to reward your time in one way or another.

If you are a customer at a club, the girls don’t have to be at your beck and call and they certainly don’t have to accept your dance. If you’re going to behave like a douche then expect to be left alone. Realise the girls need to make money and they do not get paid to simply be there at the club. If you have no intention of tipping or booking them, let them go on their way when they want to, and don’t make them feel bad about it. No tips or dances means no money for them, and many clubs charge the girls a door fee just so they can work. So if you’re not planning to book a dance just yet, be upfront about it. The girls will appreciate your honesty and may even decide to keep you company for a little longer anyway.

A lot of clubs take a cut of the girl’s tips if you give them the money on the floor. So if you want to tip her, check to see when she’s going on stage next. In saying that, if you’re sitting in a designated tipping area around the stage, expect to be asked to tip them. Premium viewing should pay a premium price and you could be costing the dancer money by taking up a seat from someone who wants to tip.

The dancers that work in the clubs provide entertainment and in turn create a bit of a fantasy world. The girls are definitely brave, and on more than one occasion I’ve suggested to a heckler that if they think they can do a better job, then they should get up on the stage themselves!

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New Poll: Is Stripping Empowering or Degrading to Women?

Women’s rights are being highlighted daily in the media at the moment. What purpose do you think stripping holds in our modern society? Do we ‘need’ to have stripping as part of our ongoing culture?

Some people believe stripping is empowering to women, some believe it is degrading, some are indifferent and think women should be allowed to do whatever they wish.

Now is your chance to have your say about whether you believe stripping is empowering or degrading.

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